All of us have relationships and some are not as healthy as others. Some are an obvious unhealthy form and others are a subtle form that is harder to see. But whether they are obvious or not, if they are unhealthy, they will eat away at our value and worth and make us feel worthless, nasty, unlovable, like a freak, ashamed of, undeserving…
Our feelings are important but they are not the truth. But if the environment keeps us enclosed in lies then we will struggle to know how to fight for truth, or even know it exists differently from what we believe.
This could be from any relationship- from a family member to a colleague, friend or partner. But how we are treated by others is who they are. It is not who we are. This is intel about who they are and what they know about relationships and behaviour. And then it gets transferred onto others in their proximity. Unfortunately, with these relationships, or after them, it is others who will then have to deal with these feelings and decide what we am going to believe- the lies of the spirits that had a seat around the table of that relationship, or something more.
How others treat me is not who I am.
How I feel about myself is not who I am.
But how do I know I’m not what they say when all I have is “evidence” of it?
As a believer in Jesus Christ, I am not without inner pain and turmoil. It’s just that God is with me in it. Even when it doesn’t feel like He is.
How we get to know our true value and worth is spending time with the One who loves us and created us. He is the One who knows our design- for purpose and for pleasure.
No-one can give us our identity like God. He speaks through His word, His creation and not only speaks but demonstrated His love for us by taking all our sin and pain to the cross and dying in our place. He understands all of our pain and wickedness and loves us and wants to heal us into wholeness. His love for us gives Him the authority to speak to us about who He says we are.
He calls us daughter or son. His daughter or son. This is the highest position of identity we could have. And as our Father, He knows who we are. He is not a sugar daddy who will throw money at us but has no interest in our well-being. He is interested in every detail of our heart and life and able to take care of us and make us strong and soft in a world that is weak and hard. He disciplines those He loves and has invested all of Himself for us.
Find out what He says about you and hold to that. This will need to be fought for as we live in a world where even culture will tell us we’re not good enough as who we are..
Let’s find our healing and push against the onslaught of false and poisonous identities that are trying to impose themselves on us.
If we can be who we truly are, then we will be able to bring healing to not only others but also have the authority to speak life to others.
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